I spent the first 35 years of my life in react & rescue mode

Reacting to conflict. Reacting to criticism. Reacting to rejection (that one stung the most)

And rescuing people from problems I thought I could fix—if I just tried hard enough.

You can probably guess how well that turned out:

I was frustrated

that my life and relationships had turned out so differently than I had hoped. “Is this really all there is?”

I was resentful

because I felt unloved, unappreciated and taken for granted by the people around me. Would I ever be enough?

I was lost

not just in love, but in life. I wasn’t even sure what I wanted—but this definitely wasn’t it.

And despite how hard I was working to fix my relationships…

I felt more alone and disconnected than I ever had.

 

Perhaps you can relate.

 

(The good news? You are so in the right place.)

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I’m Mariette West, and I help women reignite their relationship, rekindle their romance by reconnecting with themselves.

You know, the person you used to be— before life got in the way? The person you thought you would have become by now?

She’s in there. She’s been waiting. And she’s ready.

My official title is Relationship Coach, but the truth is that my work goes much, much deeper than your relationship with your significant other.

 

Let me explain.

 

The women I work with are smart, capable and caring. But years, decades, or an entire lifetime of people-pleasing and putting others first has worn them down.

 

And most of all… they’re tired. Tired of trying so hard to make things work, to make others happy, to keep up the facade even though things are really tough right now. Some days, it feels like no matter how hard you try… it’s still not good enough. No wonder you’re so tired!

Tell me if any of this sounds familiar:

  • The same conflicts keep appearing in your relationships—and no amount of arguing, “communication” or last-ditch attempts at resolutions (or date-night romance) seem to fix what’s really going on.
  • You feel lost in your relationship and painfully distant from your partner. You find yourself wondering, “How did we get so off-track… and how do we go back to the way things used to be?”
  • You’re walking on eggshells and repeating the same patterns of conflict over and over again. At this point, you know how most of your arguments are going to end before they’ve even begun.
  • Maybe things have become so bad that you’re in crisis: a boundary has been crossed, trust has been violated, or things have become so difficult that you can barely stand it—and you’re not sure whether to stay or go (and that’s scary as hell to even say out loud).

If you see yourself in any of the points above, I’m so glad you’re here — because even if you don’t believe it just yet, there is hope:

You can get back to feeling connected, in-sync and in love with your partner.

You can break out of the cycle of blame, resentment and disappointment.

And you can become the woman you’ve always dreamt of becoming:

The woman who is fearless, vibrant and magnetic; full of life and love.

But in order to make that happen… there’s something you need to know:

Creating the love you crave and the life you want begins with three very important letters.

Y-O-U.

Yup. I’m talkin’ about you. (Not in the “this is all your fault” sense, but in a “you have more power than you could ever imagine” sense—even if all you’re feeling right now is completely hopeless and fed up.)

And here's why:

Although there are three different places you can focus on in your relationship… only one of them is within your control.

And only one of them has the potential to create real, lasting change in your relationship.

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You could fixate on your partner: the things you wish he would start or stop doing, the way you want him to make you feel…

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You could fret about “us”: the relationship that’s formed when two people come together (which can be “so good I’ve got goosebumps”, kinda “meh” or soul-suckingly bad)...

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And then… there’s you.

Experience has shown you that you can’t change another person (because if it was possible, you wouldn’t be here).

 

And all of your efforts to fix “the relationship” haven’t done much to improve things in the long term, either. In fact, focusing on all that’s wrong in your relationship has only made things feel worse—am I right?

 

Which means the only thing you can realistically expect to change is… you.

And let me be clear: I’m not saying this because I think you need to be better or just love harder or fix the flaws that make you human.

 

I’m saying this because being in a relationship is an opportunity to discover yourself and understand the unique style of love and behavior that you contribute to your union (for better and for worse).

And no, this doesn’t mean that you need to put up with someone else’s crap for the rest of your life or stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.

I’m asking you to suspend your disbelief, just for a moment, that your life and relationship could be dramatically different—more fulfilling, more exciting, and every bit as loving as you’ve ever dreamed of—without having to strongarm your partner into changing.

 

I’m asking you to consider the idea that what you bring to any relationship has a direct impact on what you receive. I know that runs counter-intuitive to everything we’ve ever been taught about relationships (thanks, Hollywood)...

 

But it’s true: while you’ve been so busy worrying and stressing about other people, you’ve been missing the opportunity right under your nose.

 

(Yup. Y-O-U.)

So allow me to be the bearer of AWESOME news:

When you’re willing to do this work? To reflect and look at what you want, what you need, exactly how you’re going to get it and how you’ve been getting in your own way?

 

(Especially with someone like me in your corner?)

Everything changes.

(It did for me, and for the many women I’ve worked with over the last 10 years.)

  • Dancing with drama and conflict becomes a thing of the past— replaced with a passionate love that fills you up and lasts.
  • Getting rocked by the surprises of life? A distant memory. You’re steady as a rock, baby… and you’re feeling more cool, calm and confident than ever before.
  • Your inner-GPS is fully charged and turned to “ON”.

You’ve gone from feeling like a passenger in your own life to a partner in crime, cruising with your sweetie in a direction that finally feels exciting, inspiring and right.

And it all begins with you.

Because you’ve always had the power, my dear… you’ve had it all along.

 

(Yes, I just quoted The Wizard of Oz to make a point. I couldn't help myself.)

You can have all of this and so much more… if you’re willing to take back your power and claim it.

No one else can do it for you.

 

But—if you’re ready to create the life and love you deserve—I can help.