Horror stories! We’ve all heard them. The date who shows up with terrible B.O and no wallet. The car that flies off the back of the tow truck. The holiday you spent with your head over the toilet. Bummer situations. But sometimes a horror story can teach us a lesson. Always make sure you google your dates first. Make sure the tow truck is insured. Don’t drink the water! There are a lot of horror stories in our relationships too, and I’m sure you’ve heard a few. I want to talk about one that’s near and dear to my heart.
My OWN horror story.
When my children were 3 and 2 (my son just turned 16!), I experienced one of many parenting situations. I was exhausted and had just settled down for a nap. The kids were with their dad and instead of fun and play, it was CHAOS and I WAS PISSED! Couldn’t Nik handle these 2 …read them a book, play a game…something?? I stormed down the stairs ready to tell him what to do and ‘fix’ the situation. My mind was racing with future stories about how (obviously) parenting was going to rest all on my shoulders. Luckily there were many stairs and before I got to the bottom, I heard music and the chaos had settled.
The lesson I learned?
My way was NOT the only or even the better way to parent. Even more importantly, I was the one in CHAOS not Nik or the kids! I learned (thank goodness I was in coach training at the time!) trying to change Nik created pure CHAOS, disconnection and certainly didn’t fix anything. Blaming and trying to fix my husband wasn’t working and until that moment, we all, were paying for it.
This week I’m going to be sharing some of the other stuff you might have done in your relationship that really doesn’t work. I want to prevent you from the inner chaos and relationship disconnection I experienced. That will be coming tomorrow .
In the meantime, I want to know what’s your horror story?
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