It’s time to break out of the unhealthy patterns that stifle your relationship and dim your life.
You already know which patterns I’m talking about. It’s the same dance that you and your partner get stuck in time and time again:
A moment of frustration you’ve held onto for too long. A trigger that gets under your skin — and like an itch you can’t help but scratch…
You raise the issue and BOOM: you’re dancing in conflict, frustration, cold-shoulders and silent treatments.
You’re so sick of this dance. It sucks. But you don’t know how to stop.
Maybe you’ve even reached the point where you’re so resigned to “this is just how it is now” that you don’t even argue or fight about your problems anymore.
You miss the love you used to have and often find yourself wondering… “Can I settle for this? Is there something better for me, or am I just dreaming of a Hollywood ending?”
I’m here to tell you, definitively:
You can have more, but only if you’re willing to create it.
(And trust me — what’s possible for you is so much better than a cliched hollywood romance.)
This is your life — and from now on, you get to write the script.
You might not know it yet, but the dark place you’ve been dancing around is called The Drama Triangle:
You and your partner might even find yourself trying on different roles at the same time, as you try to get the upper hand and bring about a resolution during conflict (a total oxymoron, but a serious struggle for almost every couple).
This is true even if your relationship isn’t filled with fiery fights and epic showdowns.
Every conflict — the ones you talk about, and the ones you sweep under the rug — are all rooted in the Drama Triangle.
"When I look back at where I was, Mariette gave me the tools and insight to shift from being the victim to a place of empowerment."
So what’s the alternative?
In any partnership, there are bound to be things that bother you and have the potential to cause conflict (and even tear relationships apart).
While everyone’s default reaction to triggers like this is to get right back inside the Drama Triangle and battle it out, there is an alternative.
And the transformation you’ll experience in your relationship and in your entire life is astounding:
Feeling frustrated, unfulfilled and alone in your relationship.
Deep, passionate connection with the person you love.
Wondering if you should stay or go — "Can this relationship give me what I need?”
Knowing exactly what you need in your relationship and how to get it.
Repeating the same cycles of conflict (without any real resolution or change).
The skills and tools you need to address the big issues (without the blow-up).
Feeling lost and powerless in your life—wondering, “Is this really all there is?”
A rock-solid sense of who you are and how to get your needs met in love and in life.
The alternative approach you’ve been looking for is called Relationship Reconnection, and you’ll learn more about it on this page.
It’s a relationship revolution for women who are sick of repeating the same soul-sucking patterns in their relationship.
It’s for women who are ready to reclaim their power and create the love and life they’ve been dreaming of.
It’s for you: the woman who knows that deep down she IS capable of having so much more — if only she had the tools, resources and support she needed to make it happen.
"Working with Mariette helped me stop the spiralling thoughts and ask the questions to help me sort through my emotions.
She helped me identify the cause of my suffering and address my problems in a healthy way. I’m on the road to a healthier me!"
Relationship Reconnection is a 12-week relationship transformation that only requires one thing: you
Over 12 weeks, you’ll learn how to step out of drama and conflict and into a life of love and connection — with the person you care about most.
And, most importantly of all… we’ll create a path towards helping you get back in touch with yourself — because as life goes on, it’s so easy to lose yourself inside your relationship. We’ll put the focus back on YOU: your needs, your wants, and how we’ll create the loved-up, connected and fulfilling life you deserve.
(Even if your partner isn’t onboard, and even if you’re worried that your chance at love has passed you by.)
So—are you ready for your relationship revolution?
No-obligation call to get to know each other and answer any questions you have
"Working with Mariette changed my life in an incredible way.
She gave me the gift of being able to look at things from a different perspective and embrace each moment. In her warm and safe way, she helped me peel back the layers and look inward, so I could move forward in my life and relationship in a positive way.”
So at this point, you might be wondering… why me?
Didn’t it take two people to create this mess?
Yes... but that’s not the whole story.
Choosing to take responsibility for your role in the health of your relationship isn’t a burden. In fact…
It’s an opportunity to get back in touch with who you are and who you want to become — and to break free from the stories, habits and beliefs that are getting in your way.
A relationship is made up of a dynamic between two people. When you own your part in that dynamic, things will begin to shift in a big way (and no, that doesn’t mean you’ll have to put up with someone else’s crap or stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy).
Relationship Reconnection is your opportunity to reclaim your power and take back the keys to your future:
To create the life you want.
To build the loving relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
And craft a rock-solid foundation strong enough to weather any storm.
Nobody else can make this happen for you. Not your partner. Not your therapist. Not even me.
But if you’re ready for lasting change...
Relationship Reconnection will give you the tools, resources and support you need to make it happen.
What we’ll dive into over the next 12 weeks:
Where you’re stuck in your relationship, what needs to change, and how to create the love you deserve.
How to break free from unhelpful habits, patterns and behaviors that secretly sabotage your relationships — past, present and future.
How to revive your relationship and rekindle your romance (even if it feels like your partnership is D.O.A.).
What you REALLY want from your life and how to make it happen... regardless of whether you’re loved-up or single.
After 12 weeks, you’ll walk away with all of the skills you need to create the future you crave and the love you deserve.
And the best part?
You don’t need to wait 12 weeks to start seeing real results in your relationship.
From your very first session with me, things will begin to change in a big way:
"Working with Mariette changed my life in an incredible way. Working with Mariette is one of the best decisions I’ve made in a long time.
When we started, I was in a state of anxiety, unhappiness and confusion. Mariette supported me through uncovering the thoughts and feelings that were hindering my progress and gave me the tools I needed. Her intuition is remarkable and she quickly knows how to help you move to the next step."
Who’s behind Relationship Reconnection?
I’m Mariette West, and together, we’ll transform your relationship and your entire life.
(Big claim, I know.)
Over the past 10 years, I’ve worked with many women who were looking to fix their relationship and start living the loved-up life they dreamed of.
These women were so focused on fighting the problems in their relationship and wishing that their partner would change, that they missed the golden opportunity right in front of them…
The best chance you’ve got at creating the relationship you want is to look at what YOU bring to the table.
It can be confronting, and more than a little scary to peel back the layers and see how you’ve been helping and hurting your relationship.
But when you do it — especially with someone like me in your corner?
Your relationships become more steady, more loving, and more fulfilling than you could have ever dreamed.
Life feels lighter — more exciting, more vibrant — like that moment in The Wizard of Oz when the world switches from black and white to stunning technicolor.
And best of all... your relationship with yourself completely transforms:
You stop being the victim and a passenger in your own life. And you start being the confident, capable and magnetic woman that was in there all along.
Here’s how Relationship Reconnection works:
WEEKLY ONE-ON-ONE SESSIONS
Once a week, for 12 weeks, you and I will have a one-on-one, heart-to-heart session.
Every section is structured to make sure we cover all the details and get everything out on the table — without getting sidetracked or talking in circles.
BETWEEN SESSIONS "HEARTWORK"
We don’t do homework around these parts, but we do do heartwork. In between our sessions, you’ll receive a series of mini-activities and reflections to delve into in your own time.
You’ll put everything you’ve learned into practice and start seeing results in your relationships in real time.
TOOLS, RESOURCES AND WORKSHEETS
I’ve developed a range of processes and tools to help you uncover hidden patterns in your relationships and break bad habits.
Next time you’re triggered or upset, you’ll be able to turn to these resources to move forward in a way that is loving and constructive.
"Mariette is a total professional, non-judgemental and had the patience to be present with me, no matter what came up
I was able to trust the process of working with her, no matter how stuck I felt. Now, I have the tools I need to navigate my relationship with skill and truly see myself for who I am and who I can become.”
"Mariette knows when to challenge you and when to listen.
She provided a safe and trusting space for me to be myself, even when it was so hard. Rather than telling me what to do, she gave me the freedom, space, and guidance I needed to find those “aha moments” within myself — and now I have more trust and confidence in myself than ever.”
Relationship Reconnection is for women who are…
PART OF AN ESTABLISHED COUPLE
Ready to redefine and reshape your marriage into something spectacular.
IN A NEWER OR STRUGGLING RELATIONSHIP
Dealing with conflict, disconnection and considering throwing in the towel.
DIVORCED OR RECENTLY SINGLE
You want tools and insights to stop repeating patterns from past relationships.
And, most importantly…
This is for women who are ready to do the work.
You’ve already tried all the quick-fixes and relationship hacks. You know they don’t work.
Reconnecting to Me is for women who are done with the band-aids and are ready for a relationship revolution…
… And want all the tools and support they need to make it happen.
Because you deserve this.
You don’t need to go one more day waiting for someone else to swoop in and save you — because today, as you are, you. are. enough.
And while you might not realize this yet…
You’ve had the power all along. To create the life you want. The love you want. And get back in touch with YOU — the real you. Vibrant. Alive. Fulfilled.
This is your invitation to claim it — all of it.
You won’t find what you’re looking for in the back of the fridge, in a 5-hour Netflix binge, or on your next online shopping splurge
(No judgment — we’ve all been there.)
At the heart of it all, Relationship Reconnection is so much more than an investment in your relationship.
It’s your ticket to creating the life you’ve always wanted.
You can’t get this stuff from reading another self-help book, venting to your girlfriends or tuning into Dr. Phil at lunchtime.
But if you’re willing to do the work with me for the next 12 weeks…
The skills you’ll learn and the insights you’ll gather will serve you for the rest of your life.
Your relationships will be stronger than you’ve ever imagined. You’ll be living a vibrant life of your own making. And during the hard times? You’ll have everything you’ll need to ride the rollercoaster and stay on course.
What’s the life and love you’ve dreamed of really worth to you?
It begins with your investment in Relationship Reconnection:
No-obligation call to get to know each other and answer any questions you have
"So often in life, we get overwhelmed by circumstances and events. We lose touch with our passions and stop working from a position of strength and confidence.
Mariette’s practical and profound coaching had an immediate, positive and lasting impact on how I saw myself and my world. It’s both powerful and subtle.
and an incredibly worthwhile investment in getting (and giving) the most from life."
An important note: I am a relationship coach who works with women that are dealing with dissatisfaction in their life and relationship. While I am a highly experienced and certified coach, I am not a therapist, a doctor, or a licensed mental health professional.
If you are in a relationship where you are at risk of being harmed, or are dealing with circumstances that would be better handled by a licensed health professional, I encourage you to reach out and get the specialized help you need. I have compiled a list of resources for you here.